Counsels on Wellness

Counsel #24 — Behind Closed Doors

Picture: Counsel #24 — Behind Closed Doors CWe 253.1

Abuse — whether verbal, emotional, financial, physical, or spiritual — will always create a living environment where stress, fear, and insecurity thrive. Not only does any type of abuse devastate every member of the household, but it also includes unhealthy ways of communicating. CWe 253.2

Spouses in abusive relationships at home often feel trapped, emotionally exhausted, and isolated, often causing them to act out in front of their children. Whenever someone feels attacked in a place where they’re supposed to feel protected, they often lash out by fighting back physically or verbally. Children who witness abusive behavior in the home will likely struggle with depression, anxiety, and trusting others. Additionally, depending on how consistent the abuse is, when that child gets older, they may end up abusing or mistreating their significant other as well. If you know someone who’s living in an unsafe environment, encourage them to seek professional and spiritual help. God never wants us to suffer alone; He longs to heal and restore us — often using others to assist in that process.^[287] CWe 253.3

“Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended.” Proverbs 22:10 NIV CWe 253.4

“How many will cherish animosity or revenge and then bow before God and ask to be forgiven as they forgive.” Ellen White in God’s Amazing Grace , p. 328 CWe 253.5

Reflect: Do you have a home environment filled with respect and safety? How can you support those who may be experiencing abuse in their homes? CWe 253.6