Counsels on Self-Identity

Counsel #21 — Lean On Me

Picture: Counsel #21 — Lean On Me CI 179.1

There are days when it feels easier to smile and respond, “I’m good,” even when you’re not. Maybe you’ve been let down before. Maybe you’ve learned to keep things to yourself because talking about it didn’t seem to help or made you feel judged. Although the first reaction is to withdraw when you’re struggling, the truth is, healing often begins with being seen.^[195] CI 179.2

God created us for community, not performance, and while it may feel awkward or vulnerable to open up at first, reaching out to someone you trust could be the turning point you didn’t know you needed. It could be a friend who won’t try to “fix” you but will just sit with you and offer Christian encouragement. It could also be a mentor or pastor who has experienced a little more life than you and thus won’t be shocked by your honesty. Even a counselor can help you dig up the stuff you’ve buried. The key is to start small! Send a text. Ask to meet up, or just tell someone, “Hey, I’ve been struggling.” Often, one step is all it takes. CI 179.3

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” Proverbs 17:17 NIV CI 179.4

“We must not build a wall between ourselves and the world.” Ellen White in Pastoral Ministry, p. 91 CI 179.5

Reflect: What are you carrying alone that you can share with someone? CI 179.6