Counsels on Self-Identity

Counsel #20 — Boundaries

Picture: Counsel #20 — Boundaries CI 178.1

If you’ve ever found yourself overcommitted, exhausted, or resentful because you keep saying yes to things you don’t have the capacity for, you’re not alone. Often, people with low self-esteem feel they must earn the approval of others by being constantly available. But consistently giving beyond your limits will eventually leave you burned out. CI 178.2

God never asked you to do everything, and He expects you to set healthy boundaries. After all, that’s part of spiritual maturity! When you guard your time and energy, you’ll be better equipped to tackle difficulties head-on and pursue your God-given purpose with discernment. Practically, boundaries might mean turning down extra commitments, carving out time for Sabbath rest, or even stepping away from relationships that drain your energy and emotional well-being. It may feel awkward at first, but over time, you’ll notice something powerful: your “nos” will create room for God’s “yeses.” Your worth isn’t based on how much you do for someone or how many people you please. It’s based on who God says you are, which means it’s okay, even necessary at times, to choose your peace over people-pleasing.^[194] CI 178.3

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV CI 178.4

“…you have not treated yourself as you should, but have disregarded the laws of health by your terrible neglect of yourself…. Keep regular hours. You will need to guard yourself strictly. Do not worry about any one or anything.” Ellen White in Letter 115, 1898, par. 3 CI 178.5

Reflect: What boundary do you need to set to protect your peace? CI 178.6