Counsels on Relationships
Counsel #23 — Love in Action
Picture: Counsel #23 — Love in Action CR 121.1
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 reminds us that love is patient and kind, free of envy, pride, or selfishness. It doesn’t dishonor others, isn’t easily angered, and keeps no record of wrongs. Love rejoices in truth, always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. CR 121.2
Applying these principles in a relationship requires prayer, intentionality, and consistent practice as emulating the fruits of the Spirit doesn’t come naturally. As humans, we were born in sin and are now living in a world infested with sin. Portraying the qualities God desires for us to live out requires a constant mindful connection with God, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, and a fully surrendered will. One thing that is important to consider when in a relationship is letting go of pride. This means apologizing when you’re wrong, avoiding angry reactions, and not “keeping score.” For example, in a disagreement, instead of retaliating with harsh words, choose patience and speak kindly to resolve the issue. By embracing this approach, your relationship can thrive because it will be surrounded by joy, peace, and a reflection of God’s grace.20 CR 121.3
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22, 23 NIV CR 121.4
“As you receive the Spirit of Christ... you will grow and bring forth fruit.” Ellen White in Sons and Daughters of God, p. 32 CR 121.5
Reflect: When you are in a disagreement with your partner, do you tend to rehearse his or her past wrongs? CR 121.6