Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #13 — Patience

Picture: Counsel #13 — Patience CR 81.1

Imagine you’re talking with a friend who’s upset. They’re trying to express how they feel but struggling to find the right words. You’re tempted to interrupt or rush them along, but instead, you take a deep breath, nod, and let them finish. In that quiet moment of patience, you show them they matter. You make them feel seen, heard, and valued. CR 81.2

Now, picture the opposite. Your friend is venting, and you quickly jump in with advice or maybe out of frustration. The tone shifts. Tension rises. You both walk away feeling unheard and disconnected. Of the two previous interactions, which one do you think Jesus calls us to model? If you said the first, you’re absolutely right! Jesus showed patience time and time again as He listened to people’s pain, asked thoughtful questions, and responded with love and grace, even when people were angry or hostile. He didn’t rush or brush people off—He engaged with kindness and understanding. CR 81.3

Jesus’ example shows us that true patience in communication looks like slowing down. It means making eye contact, listening without planning your response, and pausing before you speak. These small actions can turn difficult conversations into opportunities for genuine connection. Offering someone your full attention—your time—is one of the most meaningful gifts you can give.⁶ CR 81.4

“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.” Proverbs 14:29 NIV CR 81.5

“There is necessity for the Christian adding patience to temperance.” Ellen White in Our High Calling, p. 70 CR 81.6

Reflect: What situations tend to test your patience the most, and how can you handle them better? CR 81.7