Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #19 — Oversharing

Picture: Counsel #19 — Oversharing CR 348.1

In the workplace, your words shape how people see you. Sharing too much personal information, even if it seems harmless, can blur professional boundaries and weaken the respect others have for you. Oversharing about private struggles, family drama, or frustrations might feel like “being real,” but it often leaves colleagues feeling uncomfortable, awkward, or questioning your judgment. CR 348.2

Once words are out, you can’t take them back, and they may even be repeated in ways that harm your reputation or opportunities at work. This doesn’t mean you should be cold or distant. Building healthy connections at work is important! The key here is discernment: know the difference between being personable and being unprofessional. Talking about your weekend activities or a favorite hobby is appropriate, but discussing details of an argument with your spouse isn’t. The Bible reminds us that wisdom begins with restraint, so it’s important to choose words carefully, not only to protect your career but also to honor God. So, before you speak, pause and ask: Will this build trust or weaken it? Will saying this lighten my load or create discomfort? Practicing discretion isn’t about hiding who you are. It’s about respecting both yourself and those around you.^[364] CR 348.3

“The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of sense.” Proverbs 10:21 NIV CR 348.4

“We should not indulge in foolish talking and jesting…” Ellen White in Sanctification, p. 66 CR 348.5

Reflect: Are you using discernment in what you share at work? CR 348.6