Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #18 — The Right Time

Picture: Counsel #18 — The Right Time CR 347.1

Almost every person has probably been in the middle of an important task when a coworker strolls over and launches into a drawn-out story about their weekend. In situations like these, nodding politely through the conversation won’t erase the stress that’ll ignite due to a pending deadline. You don’t want to be rude, but you also can’t afford to lose focus. CR 347.2

This is where healthy communication comes in. You don’t need to shut your colleague down harshly; you just need to communicate your needs gently. For example, you might say, “I really want to hear about your weekend, but I’m on a deadline right now. Can we catch up later?” Or, if they catch you off guard, try standing up while you respond. This will usually signal that you’re about to head back to work. It also helps to build in time for casual conversation. If you know your colleague thrives on connection, take initiative by asking them about their weekend when you actually have the time. That way, you protect your productivity while still nurturing the relationship.^[363] CR 347.3

“The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin.” Proverbs 10:8 NIV CR 347.4

“Our words index the state of our heart; and whether men talk much or little, their words express the character of their thoughts.” Ellen White in Sons and Daughters of God, p. 180 CR 347.5

Reflect: How can you balance kindness and clarity the next time a colleague interrupts your work? CR 347.6