Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #20 — Be Approachable

Picture: Counsel #20 — Be Approachable CR 349.1

Think about the kind of coworker you naturally want to talk to. Is it the person who always looks rushed or keeps their door shut? Or is it the one who makes eye contact, smiles, and leaves space for conversation? Approachability is all about creating an atmosphere where others are seen and welcomed. CR 349.2

At work, this could look like saying “yes” to lunch invitations sometimes, keeping your door cracked open when possible, or setting your phone down when someone stops by. Being approachable doesn’t mean you never set boundaries, though. More so, it means that within your healthy limits, you are open to connection. Jesus modeled this beautifully during His time on earth. Crowds pressed in on Him, yet He paused to listen to the woman with the issue of blood. Additionally, children ran to Him, even when the disciples tried to push them away. His presence invited people in rather than pushing them out. So, when you carry Christ’s love into the workplace, your demeanor itself will become an invitation. Approachability is less about charisma and more about intentional kindness.^[365] CR 349.3

“How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!” Psalms 133:1 NIV CR 349.4

“By social [connection] acquaintances are formed and friendships contracted which result in a unity of heart and an atmosphere of love which is pleasing in the sight of heaven.” Ellen White in The Adventist Home, p. 457 CR 349.5

Reflect: Do your words and actions make others feel comfortable approaching you? CR 349.6