Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #19 — Time That Matters

Picture: Counsel #19 — Time That Matters CR 21.1

Making time for friends doesn’t just happen because you want it to - it takes intentional effort. When you’re purposeful about spending time with someone, it sends the message that you respect them enough to consistently fit them into your schedule. CR 21.2

Hanging out, grabbing lunch, shooting hoops, or playing a video game with a friend are just a few ways that bonds can be strengthened. Even a quick chat between classes or during a break can make a big difference. The more time you spend with someone, the more you learn about them - their interests, values, dislikes, and circumstances should matter to you if the friendship truly holds value in your life. Even if finding common ground doesn’t always come so easily, you can still find a way to be there for them. For example, maybe your friend loves basketball, and you don’t. That’s okay! Support them at a game and cheer them on from the stands. God desires us to build genuine friendships, which requires showing up, listening, and creating a space for real connections to grow.¹² CR 21.3

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” Proverbs 17:17 NIV CR 21.4

“All will have associates, and will influence and be influenced in their turn.” Ellen White in The Adventist Home , p. 455 CR 21.5

Reflect: Are you intentional about making time for friends? CR 21.6