Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #18 — The Blame Game

Picture: Counsel #18 — The Blame Game CR 20.1

Taking responsibility for your choices isn’t always easy. Even if you’re not at fault for initially starting a conflict, you’re still culpable if your actions or words added fuel to the fire. CR 20.2

As humans, it’s in our nature to shift the blame or make excuses but doing this makes it difficult to be accountable and own our faults and flaws. When you acknowledge your mistakes, you not only grow personally but also demonstrate integrity and maturity. For example, if you forget to complete your part of a group project, blaming the dog who “ate your homework” won’t solve the problem or make things run smoothly. A better choice would be to say, “I’m sorry. I should have managed my time better. I’ll do my part now.” Some mistakes are easier to own up to than others. But God values honesty and He can help us be intentional in taking responsibility for our choices.¹¹ CR 20.3

“Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” Proverbs 28:13 NIV CR 20.4

“God holds every one of us to an individual accountability, and calls upon us to serve Him from principle, to choose Him for ourselves…” Ellen White in Reflecting Christ , p. 52 CR 20.5

Reflect: How do you respond when you’re wrong? Do you shift blame, or take accountability? CR 20.6