Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #26 — Embracing The Unconditional

Picture: Counsel #26 — Embracing the Unconditional CR 138.1

Not every person grows up with good parents, and many families today struggle with unhealthy relationships. The enemy has effectively sown chaos in countless homes, but the hope remains that, regardless of your family situation, you can choose a new path. CR 138.2

Breaking generational cycles is challenging, yet possible through God’s strength. As teens, you don’t have to repeat the mistakes or destructive patterns of your parents. With God’s grace you can reflect His love and remain Christ-like at all times, even if your parents fail to show you that same love in return. Setting healthy boundaries for your mental well-being is vital, and it’s okay to disagree with your parents if their words or actions are inconsistent with God’s character. God understands the emotional pain you carry and wants to ease your burden. When we honor Him in our responses, He grants us the grace to extend kindness, even to those who may seem unworthy of it.^[131] CR 138.3

“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.” Luke 6:32 NIV CR 138.4

“Every day, our words and acts are making impressions upon those with whom we associate.... The true follower of Christ strengthens the good purposes of all with whom he comes in contact.” Ellen White in Prophets and Kings, p. 34 CR 138.5

Reflect: Is it hard to show love and kindness when your parent has wronged you? How can God help heal these feelings? CR 138.6