Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #27 — Journey To Healing

Picture: Counsel #27 — Journey to Healing CR 139.1

Witnessing a parent’s divorce is one of the most challenging experiences for a young person. The hardest part is imagining a life where the two people you love most no longer get along. Even if the separation is amicable, navigating your emotions is something only God can truly help with. CR 139.2

Depending on the terms of the divorce, each parent may want to spend time with you individually. In these moments, it’s essential to remain neutral, respecting each parent’s role in your life, regardless of who was at fault. Avoid searching for extra details about why the divorce happened or blaming yourself—these only make acceptance harder. Instead, seek peace beyond understanding through prayer. Consider counseling, focus on activities you enjoy, and trust God to comfort you.^[132] CR 139.3

“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13, 14 NIV CR 139.4

“In every trial plead with Jesus to show you a way out of your troubles, then your eyes will be opened to behold the remedy and to apply to your case the healing promises that have been recorded in His Word.” Ellen White in Our Father Cares, p. 87 CR 139.5

Reflect: What steps are you taking to help heal from your parents’ divorce? CR 139.6