The Adventist Home -- Study Guide


Section XV — Graces that brighten family life

Date _________ AH-SG 46.1

A. Read pages 421-452. AH-SG 46.2

B. Check your knowledge: AH-SG 46.3

1. Complete: “All may possess a ________________ countenance, a _______________ voice, a ______________ manner.” (421:4.) AH-SG 46.4

2. What Biblical injunction lies at the very foundation of domestic happiness? (421:1.)

AH-SG 46.5

3. How can we ensure our children’s practicing kindness, courtesy, and love? (421:2.)

AH-SG 46.6

4. Complete: “The cultivation of a uniform courtesy, a willingness to do by others as we would like them to do by us, would banish half the _____ of life.” (421:l.) AH-SG 46.7

5. Complete: “The essence of true politeness is _____________ for others.” (423:1.) AH-SG 46.8

6. What is the best treatise on etiquette? (424:2, 3.)

AH-SG 46.9

7. How do smiles and cheerful words help the giver? (430:1.)
AH-SG 46.10

8. True or false: Christianity causes gloominess and depression. (430:2.) AH-SG 46.11

9. True or false: “It is the duty of everyone to cultivate cheerfulness instead of brooding over sorrow and troubles.” (430:3.) AH-SG 46.12

10. Complete: “Willing service to Jesus produces a ________ religion.” (431:2.) AH-SG 46.13

11. True or false: “It is the want of genuine religion that produces gloom, despondency, and sadness.” (431:1.) AH-SG 46.14

12. True or false: Children should be educated to be pleasant. AH-SG 46.15

13. Check the kind of words we should avoid using in our families. (434, 436, 437, 439, 440.)
a. Sickly sentimental _____
b. Harsh, scolding, fretful, dictatorial _____
c. Jangling, unpleasant _____
d. Impatient _____
e. Vulgar, low, cheap talk _____
f. Bitter, retaliatory, self-justifying _____
g. Burning words of passion _____
h. Slanderous _____
AH-SG 46.16

14. Check the things that should be cultivated in the speech. (434, 435, 437, 438, 440.)
a. Correct breathing _____
b. Distinctness _____
c. The use of the abdominal muscles _____
d. Pleasant and kind words _____
e. Courteous words _____
f. Tenderness and love in correcting_____
AH-SG 46.17

15. Complete: “Parents should keep the atmosphere of the home pure and fragrant with __________________ words.” (434:5.) AH-SG 47.1

15. Complete: “Parents should keep the atmosphere of the home pure and fragrant with __________________ words.” (434:5.) AH-SG 47.2

17. Complete: “Take all the _____________ features out of the voice.” (436:4.) AH-SG 47.3

18. To whom are “jangling and unpleasant, impatient, fretful words” words an offering? (437:1.)
AH-SG 47.4

19. What effect do the fretful, irritable words of parents have on their family? (441:4.)

AH-SG 47.5

20. How should the one to whom hasty words are spoken respond? (442:2.)

AH-SG 47.6

21. How did Christ respond to provoking words? (443:1.)

AH-SG 47.7

C. Rate your graces: Courteous _______ Thoughtful ______ Thought-less _____ Rude _____ AH-SG 47.8

1. Your most charming grace is ______________________
AH-SG 47.9

2. Your most annoying habit is _________________________
AH-SG 47.10

D. Discuss with others. AH-SG 47.11

1. For what should we be continually on the watch? (428: 1.)

AH-SG 47.12

2. What definitions of courtesy are given?

AH-SG 47.13

3. What impression do we give the world (and our families) when we are gloomy? (429:0.)

AH-SG 47.14

4. What makes youth respectful and polite? (422:4.)

AH-SG 47.15

5. Why should we never scold? (432:3.)

AH-SG 47.16

6. What are the effects of gloom on health? (431:0.)

AH-SG 47.17

7. “Let the conversation at the family board be such as is calculated to leave a fragrant influence on the minds of the children.” (440:4.) AH-SG 47.18

8. “We think with horror of the cannibal who feasts on the still warm and trembling flesh of his victim; but are the results of even this practice more terrible than are the agony and ruin caused by misrepresenting motive, blackening reputation, dissecting character?” (440, 441.) AH-SG 47.19

9. What is to be cultivated in our speech habits, and what weeded out?

AH-SG 47.20

10. Who are especially mentioned as worthy of receiving hospitality? (448, 449.)

AH-SG 47.21

11. How does the world’s idea of hospitality differ from Christ’s teaching on the subject? (451:1-3.)

AH-SG 48.1

E. Think on these things: AH-SG 48.2

1. “Your courtesy and self-control will have greater influence upon the characters of your children than mere words could have.” (421:5.) AH-SG 48.3

2. “Gentle manners, cheerful conversation, and loving acts will bind the hearts of children to their parents by the silken cords of affection and will do more to make home attractive than the rarest ornaments that can be bought for gold.” (426, 427.) AH-SG 48.4

3. “Smile, parents; smile, teachers. If your heart is sad, let not your face reveal the fact.” (432:2.) AH-SG 48.5

4. “If we are courteous and gentle at home, we shall carry the savor of a pleasant disposition when away from home.” (429:1.) AH-SG 48.6

5. List ways in which the atmosphere in your home can be made more cheerful. AH-SG 48.7

6. “Every word spoken by fathers and mothers has its influence over the children, for good or for evil.” (434:2.) AH-SG 48.8

7. What program of training should we establish in our families that our children’s speech may be “seasoned with salt”?

AH-SG 48.9

8. “By showing hospitality to God’s children we, too, may receive His angels into our dwellings.” (445:3.) AH-SG 48.10

9. “Do not try to appear what you are not, either in your table preparations or in your manners.” (449, 450.) AH-SG 48.11

10. “Christ keeps an account of every expense incurred in entertaining for His sake. He supplies all that is necessary for this work.” (450:3.) AH-SG 48.12

11. “The poor are purposely permitted to be thus of God, that we may be tested and proved and develop what is in our hearts.” (447:2.) AH-SG 48.13

12. “Let the simplicity of the family be preserved.” (449:3.) AH-SG 48.14

13. Do I need to revise my present idea of hospitality? AH-SG 48.15

F. Name one grace you can use today in the home. AH-SG 48.16