Counsels on Wellness

Counsel #21 — Just Say “No”

Picture: Counsel #21 — Just Say “No” CWe 81.1

One of the hardest things for most people is being honest about the number of responsibilities they have. But when your life is stretched thin, saying “yes” to one more thing is often the quickest way to stay in a cycle of stress and overwhelm. CWe 81.2

Whether you tend to overcommit out of guilt or a fear of disappointing others, your mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional health must take priority over people-pleasing. That begins with being honest—with yourself first, then with others—about how busy you really are and intentionally choosing balance. CWe 81.3

Saying “no” isn’t selfish; it’s a vital step toward reducing anxiety, building healthier relationships, and creating a more manageable lifestyle. For example, declining to host a family member over the holidays may be the wisest decision, especially if you know being around them typically stresses you out. Yes, God calls us to serve—but never at the cost of our sanity. Ultimately, learning when and how to say “no” brings greater peace, increased productivity, and a deeper appreciation of healthy boundaries.^[96] CWe 81.4

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV CWe 81.5

“But too often our neglect to fulfill our responsibilities as God requires us to, leaves us in an uncertain position.” Ellen White in The Signs of the Times , February 18, 1897, par. 2 CWe 81.6

Reflect: Why do you think saying no to others and prioritizing yourself can sometimes be so hard? CWe 81.7