Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #20 — Chained

Picture: Counsel #20 — Chained CR 378.1

Have you ever noticed how hard it is to move forward when your hands are full? Well, the same is true for the heart. When we cling to an offense, it’s like carrying a heavy, rusted chain of bitterness, resentment, and pain. To forgive someone doesn’t mean pretending the hurt never happened. It just means making the conscious decision to say, “I’m not going to carry this anymore.” CR 378.2

This isn’t easy, especially when the offense is personal and deep. The worst part about being hurt is that the mind often replays the hurtful moment on a loop, analyzing every single word and action, like a movie you can’t turn off. This constant negative meditation robs your joy, drains your peace, and will keep you trapped in that moment of pain. Over time, these feelings can lead to restless nights, clouded judgment, and even physical illnesses. Thankfully, God invites you to let go of whatever has you chained and believe in His healing power. Saying, “Lord, I believe You have the power to restore my heart, mind, and spirit,” and then allowing Him to take the wheel in the first step to restoration.^[399] CR 378.3

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7 NIV CR 378.4

“Trust yourself in the hands of God.” Ellen White in Daughters of God, p. 221 CR 378.5

Reflect: What chain are you still carrying that God is asking you to set down? CR 378.6