Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #25 — Toxic

Picture: Counsel #25 — Toxic CR 354.1

Picture walking into the office and immediately feeling your stomach tighten. A coworker cracks a “joke” at your expense by mocking your faith, your background, or even your gender. You brush it off the first time, but it keeps happening. CR 354.2

That’s the reality of a toxic workplace, where disrespect, hostility, or constant belittling make it difficult to thrive. Unfortunately, toxic work environments are extremely common nowadays, with many people preferring jobs where communication isn’t a requirement. So, in these environments, how do you respond without losing your peace, or your witness? First, remember your identity is defined in Christ, not in the words of others. Psalms 139 reminds us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” That truth is unshakable even in an environment that tries to tear you down. Second, set boundaries with grace. If possible, calmly let the person know their words or actions are hurtful. Sometimes people are unaware, but other times, patterns persist. In those cases, it’s wise to involve HR, a supervisor, or a trusted mentor. Finally, pray for strength and ask God to help you see beyond the hurt.^[370] CR 354.3

“Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.” Romans 12:14 NIV CR 354.4

“He is our example, not only in His spotless purity, but in His patience, gentleness, and winsomeness of disposition.” Ellen White in In Heavenly Places, p. 181 CR 354.5

Reflect: How can you respond to disrespect in a way that protects your dignity but still honors God? CR 354.6