Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #14 — Quality Time

Picture: Counsel #14 — Quality Time CR 248.1

One of the hardest things to do in a marriage is to consistently attend to the needs of your spouse while dealing with your own troubles. When you come home from work after a long day, what is the first thing you do? Do you both collapse onto the couch, put on a show, or scroll through your phones? Before you know it, you’ll both be ready to go to bed and wake up to do it all over again. CR 248.2

In today’s world, screens are everywhere - TVs, phones, and tablets fill up so much space that could be filled with real conversation. While watching a good show together might feel like quality time, if it’s the norm, your relationship might be coexisting instead of growing. Most couples already have limited time together as it is. Between work, kids, and other personal responsibilities, uninterrupted face-to-face connection is rare, so whenever those moments arrive, they must be prioritized. Intentionally limiting screen time, even just a few nights a week, can open the door to deeper conversations, laughter, prayer, or simply enjoying one another’s presence.^[263] CR 248.3

“Be very careful, then, how you live - not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.” Ephesians 5:15, 16 NIV CR 248.4

“Let parents devote the evenings to their families.” Ellen White in Christian Education, p. 167 CR 248.5

Reflect: How do you and your spouse prioritize each other? CR 248.6