Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #26 — Sustaining the Now

Picture: Counsel #26 — Sustaining the Now CR 231.1

When children are young, it’s natural for life to revolve around them. Parents are constantly busy with feeding schedules, school pickups, sports, homework, and bedtime routines. In this season, it can feel like there’s no room left for date nights or deep conversations, but amid the busyness, one quiet truth remains: the strength of your marriage is the foundation your children stand on. CR 231.2

Loving your kids well doesn’t mean neglecting your relationship. In fact, investing in your marriage gives your children a sense of security and a blueprint for their own future relationships. Balance doesn’t require grand gestures every single day. Being consistent and intentional in the little things is all it takes. For example, pausing for a laugh over dishes, praying together at night, or taking 20 minutes to have a conversation about something other than work. Although it’s tempting to put your relationship on hold “until the kids are older,” if you’re always waiting, you’ll find that when they leave, the connection you once had before kids won’t be there. You won’t be raising children forever, but you’re meant to walk through life with your spouse for the long haul.^[243] CR 231.3

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9 NIV CR 231.4

“The talent of time is precious.” Ellen White in The Desire of Ages, p. 91 CR 231.5

Reflect: Are you nurturing your marriage in a way that will sustain the connection when parenting no longer defines your relationship? CR 231.6