Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #24 — Overflowing Kindness

Picture: Counsel #24 — Overflowing Kindness CR 229.1

We often save our best manners for the outside world. We say “excuse me” to a stranger in the grocery store, but bark orders at home without thinking. We smile politely at coworkers while offering sarcasm or silence to the people closest to us. Why? Because we assume our family members will understand. CR 229.2

Over time, when courtesy fades, assumptions and frustration will grow. Saying “please,” “thank you,” and “I’m sorry” aren’t just formalities; they are ways of reminding your family that they matter. These daily acts of kindness are the oil that keeps relationships running smoothly. Jesus modeled kindness through small, intimate moments like washing feet, welcoming little children, noticing the woman who touched His cloak, and much more. This is the kind of love that transforms homes. In your family, kindness might look like bringing your spouse their favorite drink without them asking, or sitting down to really listen to your child talk about a tough day at school. These acts of kindness aren’t grand displays - they’re sacred deposits into your family’s emotional bank.^[241] CR 229.3

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32 NIV CR 229.4

“Let the law of kindness be upon your lips and the oil of grace in your heart. This will produce wonderful results.” Ellen White in God’s Amazing Grace, p. 299 CR 229.5

Reflect: Are you intentional in being kind at home? CR 229.6