Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #23 — God FIRST

Picture: Counsel #23 — God FIRST CR 170.1

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is walk away from someone you care about, especially if you’re already deeply invested in the relationship. Even though difficult, if you see clear signs that your relationship goes against God’s will, whether by emotional manipulation, spiritual compromise, or constant disrespect, you need to pause. CR 170.2

No matter how far along you are, it’s never too late to choose obedience over attachment. God’s will for relationships is about two people aligning their wills with His, to be better together for His cause than they would be separately. He desires a foundation of love, respect, spiritual growth, and shared purpose. If you’re already seeing things that violate that, trust Him enough to let go. Yes, it may hurt now, but that pain is temporary. Marrying someone who isn’t aligned with God’s plan for your life can lead to a lifetime of struggle.^[177] Ending a relationship may cause you to feel like God doesn’t care about your happiness, but this isn’t true! He’s trying to protect it. Trust that walking in obedience now will open the door to the lasting peace and joy your heart is longing for. If necessary, be ready to take the first step toward a future that honors both God and your worth. CR 170.3

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding…” Proverbs 3:5 NIV CR 170.4

“Anything that dishonors Him will never benefit you.” Ellen White in To Be Like Jesus , p. 192 CR 170.5

Reflect: Are you willing to leave a relationship that doesn’t honor God? CR 170.6