Counsels on Relationships
Counsel #15 — OWNing Your Word
Picture: Counsel #15 — OWNing Your Word CR 17.1
When you give your word to someone, typically their first reaction is to trust you’ll follow through. But sometimes life gets in the way. Emergencies arise, misjudged time happens, and unforeseen obstacles can prevent you from keeping a commitment.8 CR 17.2
When deviating from your word, it’s essential to be honest, take responsibility, and offer a sincere apology. For example, you committed to driving a friend to the airport, but a family emergency arises to prohibit you from following through. Call your friend and sincerely apologize. Say something like, “An unexpected family emergency came up, and unfortunately, I can’t take you to the airport. Is there anyone else I can call to take you instead? What can I do to make this right?” Even though there was an acceptable reason for the cancellation, directly acknowledging the inconvenience you unintentionally caused and being willing to help rectify the problem shows that, despite your emergency, you still genuinely care about your friend’s circumstance. When you can’t follow through on your word, apologize and do what you can to fix the situation — this demonstrates integrity. Owning your word when you can’t honor it reflects God’s grace and maintains the trust others place in you. CR 17.3
“It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.” Ecclesiastes 5:5 NIV CR 17.4
“When you lose your conscious integrity, your soul becomes a battlefield for Satan…” Ellen White in Our Father Cares, p. 111 CR 17.5
Reflect: Do you follow through on your word? When follow-through is prevented by circumstances, how do you still show integrity and caring? CR 17.6