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Section III — Choosing the life partner

Date __________ AH-SG 10.1

A. Read pages 43-75. AH-SG 10.2

B. Check your knowledge: AH-SG 10.3

1. How can I avoid having an unhappy home? (43:1.)

  AH-SG 10.4

2. Complete: “No one can so effectually ruin a woman’s ___________________ and ____________________, and make life a heart sickening burden, as her own husband.’ (43:1.) AH-SG 10.5

3. Complete: “No one can do one hundredth part as much to chill the ________ and __________ of a man, to paralyze his energies and ruin his __________ and __________, as his own wife.” (43:1.) AH-SG 10.6

4. Why are the majority of marriages unhappy? (44.1.)

  AH-SG 10.7

5. What is the first step toward marriage that requires “great care”? (44:3.)

  AH-SG 10.8

6. Complete: “Weigh every __________________, and watch every development of character in the one with whom you think to link your _________________________.” (45:1.) AH-SG 10.9

7. In what are young people advised to “make haste slowly”? (44:1.)

  AH-SG 10.10

8. What three questions should those who contemplate marriage ask themselves before taking this important step? (45:2.)

  AH-SG 10.11

9. When should an engagement be broken? (48, 49.)

  AH-SG 10.12

10. Contrast true love and its counterfeit, passion, by placing the letters TL (for true love) or P (for passion) beside these definitions: (50, 51.) AH-SG 10.13

a. “Is a precious gift, which we receive from Jesus.” ( )
b. “Is a . . . principle.” ( )
c. “Is a plant of heavenly growth.” ( )
d. “Is not blind.” ( )
e. “Headstrong, rash, unreasonable, defiant of all restraint.” ( )
f. “Calm and deep in its nature.” ( )
g. “Wise and discriminating.” ( )
h. “Uncontrollable.” ( ) AH-SG 10.14

11. Complete: “To trifle with hearts is a _________.” (57:1.) AH-SG 10.15

12. Which commandment do those break who carry on a secret courtship and contract secret marriages? (58:1.)

  AH-SG 10.16

13. What kind of crop will the sowing of wild oats in youth produce? (59:4.)

  AH-SG 10.17

14. Complete: “To connect with an unbeliever is to place yourself on ______________________________.” (67:1.) AH-SG 11.1

15. Complete: “Unless you would have a home where the shadows are never lifted, do not ______________________________.”
____________________________________________________________ (67:3.) AH-SG 11.2

16. Complete: “It is only in Christ that a marriage alliance can ________________________________.” (68:2.) AH-SG 11.3

C. Rate yourself as a homemaker: AH-SG 11.4

Ideal _____ Good _____ Fair _____ Poor _____ AH-SG 11.5

1. What is your strongest point as a homemaker? ______________________________________________________________ AH-SG 11.6

2. What is your weakest point as a homemaker? _________________________________________________________________ AH-SG 11.7

D. Discuss with others: AH-SG 11.8

1. How does God choose our companions? (43:3.)

  AH-SG 11.9

2. “Marriage affects the afterlife both in this world and in the world to come.” (49:1.)

  AH-SG 11.10

3. Consider the questionnaire for prospective husbands and wives given on pages 46 and 47. AH-SG 11.11

4. “True love is a . . . principle.” (50:3.) AH-SG 11.12

5. How does such a principle work in the life and relations of two people who love each other?


AH-SG 11.13

6. Early dating. (52:1-3.) AH-SG 11.14

7. What dangers attend the habit of keeping late hours? (56:1-3.)

  AH-SG 11.15

8. What reason does the Word of God give for forbidding marriage with unbelievers? (61, 62.)

  AH-SG 11.16

9. How can parents train their daughters to be good wives?


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10. How can parents train their sons to be good husbands?


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11. When should this training begin?


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12. What attitude should parents take on chaperonage? dating? late hours?


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E. Think on these things: AH-SG 12.1

1. How much does marriage affect this life and the life to come? (43:1.)

  AH-SG 12.2

2. What dangers does Sister White point out in the life of a young lovesick girl? (52, 53.)

  AH-SG 12.3

3. “Not one word should be spoken, not one action performed, that you would not be willing the holy angels should look upon and register in the books above.” (55:2.) AH-SG 12.4

4. Do newspaper and radio reports we hear today prove the truth of the teachings of Chapter Eight?


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5. How does this chapter deal with the assertion often made by those contemplating marriage with unbelievers that the unbelieving partner will conform to the believing partner’s mode of living and faith?


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6. a. “If ever the Bible is needed as a counselor, it is before taking a step that binds persons together for life.” (70:2.) AH-SG 12.7

b. “If men and women are in the habit of praying twice a day before they contemplate marriage, they should pray four times a day when such a step is anticipated.” (71:1.) AH-SG 12.8

c. “Let the love for truth and purity and goodness be early implanted in the soul, and the youth will seek the society of those who possess these characteristics.” (74:1.) AH-SG 12.9

F. What is the best way to prepare for marriage?


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