Counsels on Self-Identity

Counsel #8 — Reaching Out

Picture: Counsel #8 — Reaching Out CI 166.1

Ever noticed how helping someone else can sometimes shift your focus from your own struggles? I get it — reaching out to help someone when you feel depressed is not something that most people feel like doing, but as Christians, it is unwise and unsafe to allow our feelings to be our compass. CI 166.2

When you’re weighed down by self-doubt, it may feel like you have nothing left to live for, but often, that’s when giving can be most healing. Low self-esteem thrives in isolation, so the key to not letting your feelings dictate your mood is helping someone in need. Maybe you have a friend going through a breakup, know someone battling temptation, or have a classmate grieving a loss. When we comfort others, we echo Christ’s love to others and can experience His love being reflected back on us. It’s not about pretending to be okay. It’s about realizing that self-esteem issues don’t discriminate — everyone can benefit from an encouraging reminder that they are loved. As you speak life into someone else’s hardship, you’ll find your own worth rise from the ashes of despair.^[182] CI 166.3

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV CI 166.4

“In thus blessing another with cheering, hopeful words, pointing him to the Burden Bearer, you may unexpectedly find peace, happiness, and consolation yourself.” Ellen White in Our High Calling, p. 64 CI 166.5

Reflect: When you feel sad, do you isolate, or look for someone you can uplift? CI 166.6