Counsels on Self-Identity

Counsel #27 — Brotherhood

Picture: Counsel #27 — Brotherhood CI 156.1

What if the breakthrough you’ve been praying for doesn’t come from a sermon, but from sitting across the table from another man who just gets it? Many men discover their deepest spiritual growth not in isolation, but through consistent connection with a small group of brothers in Christ, or a trusted accountability partner.^[172] CI 156.2

It’s easy to think you can fight your battles alone. Especially with addictions like pornography, substance abuse, anger, or even workaholism, but James 5:16 serves as a sobering reminder to “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” That kind of vulnerability isn’t easy as a man, but it’s worth it. Weekly prayer groups or Bible studies give men a space to wrestle honestly with Scripture, pray with one another, and speak truth into each other’s lives. Accountability doesn’t mean someone policing your behavior. It means someone standing with you in the fight, checking in, praying with you, and reminding you of God’s plan for your life. If you’re struggling alone, take that first step by joining a men’s group or messaging a godly friend. Just start showing up, even if you don’t feel ready.^[173] CI 156.3

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17 NIV CI 156.4

“We must not build a wall between ourselves and the world.” Ellen White in Pastoral Ministry, p. 91 CI 156.5

Reflect: What step could you take this week to connect with a godly brother? CI 156.6