Counsels on Self-Identity

Counsel #19 — Self-Control

Picture: Counsel #19 — Self-Control CI 148.1

Think of a father who’s had a rough day due to work stress, traffic, and a ceaseless migraine that medicine won’t fix. Just as he walks in, his child accidentally spills juice all over his shoes. The moment is tense, but instead of yelling, he pauses, breathes, and calmly says, “It’s okay. Let’s clean it up together.” That is self-control in action. That is internal strength. CI 148.2

In fact, one of the fruits of the Spirit is self-control, a trait deeply woven into true biblical manhood. A man isn’t strong because he intimidates or controls others. He’s strong when he controls himself, his temper, his desires, and his impulses. In the home, self-control means choosing gentleness when frustrated, showing restraint in speech, and modeling patience even when it’s easier to lash out. A man who walks with God doesn’t live by impulse, and His decisions are filtered through prayer. That kind of man doesn’t need to prove his masculinity because it’s evident in how he carries himself, especially when no one is watching.^[163] CI 148.3

“Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.” Proverbs 25:28 NIV CI 148.4

“His conduct in his home life is to be directed and restrained by the pure principles of the word of God.” Ellen White in The Adventist Home, p. 213 CI 148.5

Reflect: In what areas of your life do you need to let the Spirit grow greater self-control in you? CI 148.6