Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #26 — Respectful Relationships

Picture: Counsel #26 — Respectful Relationships CR 124.1

Being respectful in a relationship is a primary component of building trust, love, and mutual understanding. To be respectful means valuing your partner’s thoughts and feelings, regardless of the situation. CR 124.2

First, start by practicing active listening—pay full attention during conversations without interrupting, showing that you value their perspective. Next, avoid controlling behaviors by respecting their choices, if healthy, and trusting their decisions. For example, support their personal goals and friendships without dictating their actions. Respect also involves honoring commitments, whether that’s sticking to plans, fulfilling promises, or following through on shared responsibilities. Always remember to use kind and considerate language and avoid hurtful or sarcastic comments. If you and your partner are arguing, instead of saying, “You never listen,” reframe it as “I feel unheard. Can we work on this together?” When it comes to what you say, you are in full control of how you respond to an argument, and how you frame your words can either further ignite the fire or quench it. Lastly, always show appreciation by acknowledging their efforts and expressing gratitude regularly — reflecting God always.²³ CR 124.3

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12 NIV CR 124.4

“If the heart is refined, softened, and ennobled, the words and actions will testify to the fact.” Ellen White in Our High Calling, p. 336 CR 124.5

Reflect: Why do you think respect is important for every relationship? CR 124.6