Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #11 — Bullying

Picture: Counsel #11 — Bullying CR 122.1

Begin open and honest conversations about bullying early. Explain the different forms it can take, including physical, verbal, emotional, and cyberbullying. Emphasize that bullying is never acceptable. Describe how bullying can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. CR 122.2

Teach your children the importance of compassion, including standing up for those being bullied, even in the face of social pressure.   Encourage them to treat everyone with kindness and respect. Remind them that God loves all people, regardless of their differences, and that we are called to love our neighbors as ourselves. CR 122.3

If your child is being bullied, it's crucial to provide them with support and guidance. Encourage them to talk to a trusted adult, such as a teacher, counselor, or pastor. Remind them that they are not alone, and that there are people who care about them. Encourage them to pray for the bully. CR 122.4

If your child is the bully, explain the harmful effects of bullying, such as strained relationships and legal difficulties.  Help your child understand the root causes of their behavior and provide them with the support they need to make positive changes.^[115] CR 122.5

“You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.” Leviticus 19:18 ESV CR 122.6

“Teach your children to be kind and patient. Teach them to be thoughtful of others.” Ellen White in Manuscript 69, 1910 CR 122.7

Reflect: How have you encouraged your child to be a positive bystander and stand up for others? CR 122.8