Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #1 — What’s Give And Take?

Picture: Counsel #1 — What’s Give and Take? CR 96.1

Give and take in a successful marriage is a nonconfrontational exchange of ideas; acts, words, and gestures of mutual support; willingness to give up something desired for the sake of the other person; freedom to hold and practice different viewpoints; readiness to compromise; alternating choices; mutual submission; and practicing all of the above with love and graciousness.^[91] Give and take includes accountability, forgiveness, clear communication, and sharing resources and responsibilities. CR 96.2

“Finally, all of you, have unity of spirit, sympathy, love for one another, a tender heart, and a humble mind.” 1 Peter 3:8 NRS  CR 96.3

“If the will of God is fulfilled, the husband and wife will respect each other and cultivate love and confidence. Anything that would mar the peace and unity of the family should be firmly repressed, and kindness and love should be cherished. He who manifests the spirit of tenderness, forbearance, and love will find that the same spirit will be reflected upon him.” Ellen White in The Adventist Home, p. 120 CR 96.4

Reflect: Which part of the definition of give and take in the first paragraph is your strong point? Which is your weak point? CR 96.5