Counsels on Relationships
Counsel #20 — When Anger Speaks
Picture: Counsel #20 — When Anger Speaks CR 88.1
Anger is a powerful emotion, but how we handle it makes all the difference. As a Christian, it’s important to approach conflicts with patience rather than allowing anger to take control. Speaking with anger often escalates disagreements, damages relationships, and leaves lasting wounds.13 CR 88.2
Proverbs 29:11 warns us, "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end." Instead of reacting harshly, people who love Jesus respond differently than the world. Consider a church scenario where two members disagree during a ministry meeting. One person becomes frustrated and snaps, the tension grows, and instead of finding a solution, resentment builds, and nothing gets solved. Because this disagreement is left unresolved, the effectiveness of the ministry is now at risk. When Jesus rules the heart and mind, people will determine to communicate calmly until they come to a workable solution. Respectful dialogue really can solve most issues between people. Additionally, apologizing when necessary and approaching conversations with humility can lead to quicker reconciliation. When we choose patience over anger, we reflect one of the most vital fruits of the Spirit, leading to a life of peace. CR 88.3
“In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Ephesians 4:26 NIV CR 88.4
“Christ treats anger as murder.... Passionate words are a savor of death unto death.” Ellen White in Mind, Character, and Personality, vol. 2, p. 520 CR 88.5
Reflect: What steps do you take to calm down when you’re angry? CR 88.6