Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #4 — Infatuation

Picture: Counsel #4 — Infatuation CR 83.1

Infatuation is an intense and passionate fixation on someone and it’s typically short-lived. It may evolve into real love (rarely), but usually infatuation is characterized by jealousy, control, obsession, and blind, unrealistic views of the other. Entertainment media often romanticizes infatuation with the concept of “love at first sight.” It’s likely not love, but rather infatuation based primarily on physical appeal — not on a knowledge or admiration of the person’s character.^[79] CR 83.2

If you are married, you must guard your heart carefully against infatuation with someone other than your spouse. You may often spend more time with workplace colleagues than with your own partner, and that can create the possibility of infatuation with a coworker. A good way to avoid temptation and the appearance of wrongdoing is to choose not to be alone with someone of the opposite sex. CR 83.3

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23 NKJV CR 83.4

“Love is a precious gift, which we receive from Jesus. Pure and holy affection is not a feeling, but a principle. Those who are actuated by true love are neither unreasonable nor blind. Taught by the Holy Spirit, they love God supremely, and their neighbor as themselves.” Ellen White in Messages to Young People, p. 435 CR 83.5

Reflect: What are some intentional steps you can take to avoid infatuation with someone other than your spouse? CR 83.6