Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #15 — Affirmed

Picture: Counsel #15 — Affirmed CR 344.1

Think about the last time someone acknowledged your contribution, like in a meeting, at school, or even at home. Didn’t it feel good to know that your effort mattered? Now imagine the opposite. Doing the work but watching someone else take the credit. Few things crush motivation faster than that. CR 344.2

As Christians, we’re called to build others up. Empowering colleagues, friends, or family means affirming their gifts and recognizing their contributions both privately and publicly. It doesn’t cost you anything to say, “She came up with that idea,” or “He worked really hard on this,” but it can mean everything to the person hearing it. Affirmation communicates value and reflects humility - because real leaders don’t need the spotlight. Whether at work, in school, or in ministry, look for ways to highlight the strengths of those around you. When you give credit, you not only empower others to grow in confidence and purpose, but you free yourself from the exhausting cycle of proving your own worth.^[360] CR 344.3

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29 NIV CR 344.4

“Under the influence of meekness, kindness, and gentleness, an atmosphere is created that will heal and not destroy.” Ellen White in My Life Today, p. 152 CR 344.5

Reflect: Who in your life can you affirm this week, and what specific contribution can you call out? CR 344.6