Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #8 — Spiritually Connected

Picture: Counsel #8 — Spiritually Connected CR 271.1

Have you ever been in a relationship that feels like a constant tug-of-war? Maybe you enjoy nature walks and bike riding, but your partner would rather stay inside and play video games. These differences aren’t the end of the world — every couple isn’t going to always like the same things -- but when you’re in a relationship, your connection with God should never be something that has to be compromised. CR 271.2

If you feel like you have to downplay your faith or stop doing what helps you grow spiritually - like prayer, Bible study, or attending church - that’s a red flag. God should be part of your relationship, not pushed out of it. If your partner gets annoyed when you pray for wisdom and discernment instead of rushing into decisions, or they refuse to go to church with you, this is not a relationship that glorifies or reflects God. In a real give and take relationship, both people respect each other’s walk with God and make space for it. Don’t lose sight of who you are spiritually just to keep someone else happy. A God-centered relationship will always push you closer to Him, not further away.^[288] CR 271.3

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33 NIV CR 271.4

“…the claims of God should be placed above every earthly relationship…” Ellen White in Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 175 CR 271.5

Reflect: Does your relationship support or silence your faith? CR 271.6