Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #8 — Listening To Understand

Picture: Counsel #8 — Listening to Understand CR 26.1

Being a good listener is an important factor for any friendship to thrive. When a friend truly listens, they provide a secure place where moments of joy, problems, anxieties, or hopes can be openly expressed without the fear of being judged — further strengthening genuine bonds and connections. Many people don’t realize that listening is more about understanding the other person’s perspective, rather than simply hearing what they said. CR 26.2

God, the ultimate Listener, provides a blueprint for us to follow when interacting with friends, family, and even strangers. A true friend mirrors this spiritual model by being attentive and compassionate, while also offering encouragement to those who might be lacking the faith or spiritual endurance to persevere. In a world filled with distractions and temptations, a good listener reminds us of the power of genuine connection, reflecting God's heart-posture regarding human relationships.^[24] CR 26.3

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” James 1:19 NIV CR 26.4

“When by God's help we bring our whole being under the control of the Holy Spirit, we will hear His voice. There are no shortcuts, there is no easy way, casual seekers will not be guided by that still small voice.” Ellen White in Communion with God, p. 46 CR 26.5

Reflect: Why do you think being a good listener is so important for effective communication? CR 26.6