Counsels on Relationships

Counsel #5 — Accepting Other’s Apology

Picture: Counsel #5 — Accepting Other’s Apology CR 161.1

Extending forgiveness to others, even without an apology, is essential for our salvation; equally important is accepting the contrition of those who have wronged us. To refuse to grant forgiveness is to erect a barrier not only between ourselves and the offender but also between ourselves and God. If we are unwilling to extend grace and mercy to others, how can we expect to receive the same from a loving Heavenly Father? Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing and reconciliation, and it is in accepting another's remorse that we truly demonstrate the transformative power of God's love in our own lives.^[157] CR 161.2

“If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.’” Luke 17:3, 4 NKJV CR 161.3

“The church member who believes the Word of God will never look indifferently upon a soul that humbles himself and confesses his sin. Let the repenting one be taken back with rejoicing. Christ came to the world to forgive everyone who says, ‘I repent. I am sorry for my sin.’ When a brother says, ‘God has forgiven me. Will you forgive?’ clasp his hand, and say, ‘As I hope to be forgiven, I forgive.’” Ellen White in Letter 199, 1905 CR 161.4

Reflect: If someone apologizes to you and expresses remorse for how they have treated you, how do you respond? CR 161.5